What is the tackiest idea/suggestion someone has given you when planning your wedding?
Yesterday I was with my aunt & future MIL looking for last minute decorations for the reception. My aunt suggested a large grapevine wreath to hang on the wall above the head table. About that time, MIL's sister called … heard of the wreath idea & told MIL that she has a few wreaths we can use.
I think great, one less thing to buy. Well, later on that evening we meet up w/MIL's sister and she gives me the wreaths….
they are Christmas wreaths!
The evergreen ones w/pinecones, lights & big red velvet bows! (Our colors are lt. blue BM dresses with pink, yellow & orange flowers)
That's not all ~ they were (at one point) live wreaths! So, of course by now they are incredibly dry and brittle, dropping needles like crazy and are turning brown in some spots (Why they aren't more brown or falling apart more is a mystery to me)
I just politely said "thank you" & told her I would show them to my fiancé so we could make a joint decision on them. What else can you say? 
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I am choosing not to have a bridal shower because 1. My wedding is family only very small & private and 2. We have already lived togehter for a year now & really dont need anythign to startup a household.
I think it would be tacky of me to have a bridal shower & not invite those people to the wedding since its family only.
My future MIL called & was bugging me about it, I explained to her my feelings. She says, "well don't you need anythign for your house like towels, sheets, etc etc?" & I was like well yeah but anything we need we can buy. She says, lets have a a big shower & I will invite all these ladies from my church (whom I dont even know!!!) blah blah blah. I said, no thank you I feel uncomfortable having a shower. She then tells me, Well, I need new sheets & curtains so I will register under your name & get the gifts for me
My jaw about hit the floor on that one!!!
Anyway, we aren't having a shower, and my family knows that all we need is gift cards, if they want to get us anything, to the local home depot store.
My MIL is drivign me crazy!!!
OH MY GOODNESS! That's so tacky! I had someone suggest to have everyone bring their own food
Quite a few actually and I'm doing it because
A. They asked for it
B. One of the things I guess is a traditional thing in our area.
We were originally having a dry wedding. We had decided since I don't drink much, and he doesn't drink at all, we didn't need alcohol….however, we got a LOT of feedback from the younger generation (plus our immediate family) and they asked us to AT LEAST have a cash bar. So we said ok, majority ruled. Parents are fine with it, friends are fine with it. etc.
We were also told by about 9 family members/friends (one being my father, another being his mom) to have a dollar dance, so we are, we were unsure at first but did some researching and alot of people do it here. So we're doing that too…
OOO one more tacky thing, this wasn't given to me it was TOLD to me. Mom was going to stand up and thank everyone for coming to the wedding and then slam my dad (her ex husband) by saying "This wedding would not have been possible without my husband john" … yeah ok , i told her not to because it would
a. make her look bad
b. humiliate me
so she said she'd go around to every table instead and tell them… I told her that was on her, not me.
Chicken wish bones on the reception table!
i think the tackiest idea i was given was to have a may mcfetridge impersonator perform at the reception instead of a band before the dj. a comedian just is tacky its not a live show its a wedding for goodness sake.
Just tell your mother in law that you looked at them again and realized the don't work at all with the theme. Chances are the woman isn't stupid, but I'm wondering about her sister.
My in-laws, put beer bottles on the tables ( to go with the wine, for the toats's)…i didnt know about this until i turned up for the reception…that's them all over tho, they have NO class!!.
Someone suggested that to make us kiss at dinner, people had to pay us money. The more money, the "better" the kiss. I thought that was way too tacky! Besides, why would you have to pay newlyweds to kiss?
In front of my family, my FMIL asked if we were going to have a dollar dance. They looked at her like she was an alien. It's not tradition in our family.
We politely told her no.
Awww…these are beautiful but my Sister/Cousin/Mother (anyone!) already picked me up something for there–I truly appreciate the thought. Just be sweet–they did have the best intentions…though they were bad ones! lol!
Or option 2 is to remove the Christmas-y garb & do pastels on it…if it's dying this probably isn't possible though.
your choice….your wedding.
Good luck!
At my closest friends wedding her MIL did what looked like WEEDS in vases near the alter…my friend didn't see them until she was coming down the aisle…every photo…WEEDS!
My future sister in law plans to give us large bride and groom blow up dolls for the reception site because a friend of her makes them. Uh…. we haven't decided how to handle this yet. Our reception will be simple, but classy…the dolls definitely won't fit in!
Someone offered to decorate for my wedding who I had previously went to a wedding they 'decorated' at and they used disposable ashtrays to hold the unwrapped mints and used empty paint cans filled w/ cement to keep the wedding arch stable. Yes, I'm from Michigan.
LOL poor you! The worst one that I think I have gotten (and there are a few but they were in one ear out the other and I chose to forget about them LOL) My father… I was budget conscious in getting my dress, paid only $150 for it, but my dad thought that was still too much to spend on a dress and suggested I go to Mardens (A liquidation store) and pick up a dress. Apparently a few times a year they have a rack of wedding dresses for no more than $80.. So, I told him there was no way I was getting my dress there but I'd amuse him and go look. All the dresses were stained, yellowed, 70's, 80's dresses. One that his fiance wanted me to get had a tint of yellow to it, long lace sleeves with the big puffiness at the top, lace at the top of the dress covering from the neck down, big bow on the back, just really really ugly to me. She thought it would look amazing and look it's only $35 and you wanted to spend how much on your dress?? Oh and I should mention I'm getting married in August outside by the ocean. And that the original dress I showed them I wanted was a strapless and to me gorgeous and she said that I shouldn't wear it because I wasn't built for it (and yes later she said because she thought I was too fat for that dress and should have something that covers me…I'm a size 14/16)
That's pretty tacky and tops the tackiest suggestion given to me. Good luck with that one.
Ok, that is very tacky. I hope you made the joint decision to pass politly….
Well, we didn't have any.
However, you should have politely refused right at that point, not dragged it on.
yep thats pretty bad! lol however i believe i can top that one! my sister was pea green with envy that i had long hair and she didn't. [she cut hers off in a temper tantrum] she also was angry that i had a veil and she didn't. now, first of all let me tell you that my sister was the 'preferred' child, the 'princess', who was given everything. anyway, i didn't even have a wedding gown, had to borrow one, didn't want bridesmaids, nothing, just wanted to get married and be done with it all.
so the day of the wedding, here i am at the church in my borrowed dress, hubby in his sunday suit, and who shows up but mother with sister in a god awful pepto bismo pink dress with a friggin beige doily from the end table at home planted on top of her hair! and her hair? she had gotten hold of a wig from the high school drama class and was wearing that. i was mortified! i wanted to run away, screaming hysterically, and throw myself into the murray river! god it was awful! but i realized that none of it mattered as long as we got married we'd be fine.
this is why i always say to the young brides 'all that really matters is at the end of the day you will be mr. & mrs.'
My fiance and I were talking to my mother and a friend of hers, and we were discussing creative ways to get the bride and groom to kiss (to avoid abuse of the glass-clinking).
Well, this friend of my mom's suggested we have cowbells on the table to ring! My fiance and I are NOT country AT ALL and we are going for a simple, but classy wedding.
The worst part is that she wasn't joking and she was really persistent about it. My mom is the kind of person that always needs people to like her, so she acted like she loved the idea too.
It was horrifying.